The previous article inadvertently mentioned that my three little princesses were born by surrogacy
Unexpectedly, many friends began to ask about surrogacy in the United States
I joked with the team
We just finished the surrogate property together, hehe
LessisMore。 We will only focus on our real estate investment, but I also want to take this opportunity to share my experience with many friends who are going to come to the United States as surrogates
I hope I can help you
It started in August, 2014 to be a surrogate
We wanted to have children
We also attended some options lectures before, but we always felt wrong, so we never made up our minds to go the same way
In the past, I didn't dare to think of surrogacy
I thought it must be a sky high price, and the process must be very complicated
But later, with the encouragement of her friend Corrine, she decided to bite her teeth and chose the way of surrogacy in order to divide her cells
After making a decision, I began to do research on the Internet
Just like buying a house for investment, this is our first surrogate pregnancy
Everything is strange
Therefore, we must find experts to pay their fees
This is the role of surrogacy intermediary
There are many surrogate agencies in the United States
However, the prices are quite high
The price is 2
Basic management fee of USD 50000
We don't have much money, so we still want to find a reliable broker with reasonable price
After two weeks of research, there has been no good result
In desperation, we also put our information on the foreigner's website
Hope to have some good luck
I still remember that night, sitting in bed, looking at the computer, I suddenly received a letter from a surrogate agent
They are a Chinese organization in Los Angeles
The founder of the organization used to be a nurse in the hospital
Although they are now in California, they used to live in Seattle and later moved to Los Angeles
It feels like fate! For a long time, I prefer this kind of momandtopshop! After we called Jessie, the head of lxbbus, and found that their prices were reasonable, we directly signed a contract with her
We told Jessie our thoughts and requirements, and then we had to trust her and wait for her to find a suitable surrogate mother
Maybe we were lucky
A week later, we received information about three surrogate mothers
Each profile contains 4-5 photos of the surrogate mother, plus 15 pages of detailed information
It is mainly about the surrogate mother to tell her why she wants to be a surrogate mother, the health and education of her family, and her own interests and hobbies
At the same time, we also received information about 8 egg mothers
Most egg mothers are reluctant to share their personal information because they do not want to have any relationship with their future children
We always make decisions very simply and trust intuition
Egg mother, as long as she is beautiful (this is ridiculed by countless friends) and has no history of disease
The choice of surrogate mothers still needs to be careful
After all, she will take our children for 10 months
We carefully selected the information of a surrogate mother, and then decided to have a video call with her
The feeling of video calling is very good
The surrogate mother has already had two children of her own
Her husband is a member of the US Army and is stationed overseas
The surrogate mother said that on the one hand, she wanted to make more money for the family so as to provide a better life for her children; On the other hand, I want to help families who need children
We especially like her sincere answer, feeling that there is nothing hidden
I think I can start the next cooperation with her
At the same time, our egg mother has also chosen
Jessie, an intermediary, said, "we are really resolute people
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It takes one year for others to find a surrogate mother, and we are locked in less than one month
Hehe, let's smile
The big decisions in life must be made quickly
Hesitation comes and goes, time and energy are gone
Heaven will set a great task on this man, so he must first be painstaking
I thought everything was done
At this time, bad news came from our hospital
The surrogate mother had a broken abdomen before
Now the lining is too thin
The fertilized egg may not stick to it
To make matters worse, the egg mother found out that she had sexually transmitted diseases
If she wanted to promote the discharge, she had to wait at least 6 months
At this stage, our two mothers have passed the psychological test and spent thousands of dollars to do the blood test required by FDA
Take a deep breath
There is no way to complain
Well, let's do it again
Set our mind and follow the same steps
Two weeks later, we found a new surrogate mother and an egg mother
Psychological test, passed! FDA blood test, passed! Doctor physical examination, passed! Eggs, 39! Yeah！ 12 fertilized eggs that are still healthy in 5 days! We froze the 12 fertilized eggs and started genetic testing! There are 8 more healthy fertilized eggs! The fertilized egg below is when Phoebe is 5 days old! We always wanted a big family, so we decided to put two fertilized eggs into the surrogate mother's body
Surrogate mothers are also excited
After the transfer, she began to test whether she was pregnant at home every day
When that pregnant photo was sent to our mobile phones, it was really a feeling of heaven! Omitting countless nervousness and excitement
Nine months later, our little princess Phoebe came to the world
Listening to her crying, seeing her smiling face, and letting her hold my finger tightly, the previous ups and downs are also worth it
People often ask me, would your surrogate mother want to keep Phoebe? "Of course not!" She is only an oven in this process
She nurtured our dear Phoebe, but she has no blood relationship
Besides, after she got married with her boyfriend, she was ready to have her own children! Through this process, the surrogate mother has become our family
We basically contact each other by text message every week to see how everyone is doing and how the children are growing
It is this healthy and beautiful relationship that makes us decide to start our second surrogate journey in 2016
This is also a dangerous process
After 27 weeks, I opened two fingers, went to the delivery room, stayed in bed for self-cultivation, and then had an emergency abdominal birth at 34 weeks
On may29,2017, we welcomed Phoebe's two sisters to the world
Her name is Hanalei, because that is our favorite place in Hawaii
My little sister's name is Chelsie, which is the name of our surrogate mother
When we told the surrogate mother the news, she was crying like hell
Now I am half dead with three children every day
But I am glad that Corrine's advice at that time made us embark on the road of surrogacy
There are many ups and downs in any chosen path
What we can do is to bite our teeth and survive
Let time playitsmagic (use its magic) heal, solve and create
After that, I will share some useful information with you
1。 States in the United States that are more friendly to surrogacy: California, Illinois, Arkansas, Oregon, Maryland, andnewhampshire
In Washington state, surrogacy is illegal because of the protection of women's rights
We did surrogacy in California, because our name will be shown on the child's birth certificate as a parent, without the need for adoption procedures
2
The prices of surrogacy, different intermediary agencies and different clinical hospitals, have different charging methods
I have summarized the general charges
The middle column is the normal cost, and the right column is the higher cost
If your expenses exceed the higher ones, it will be too high
It is not mentioned above, but it is very important to find a good ivfclinic hospital
We interviewed at least five different hospitals and doctors recommended by the surrogacy agency, and then chose one that we thought was better, depending on personal needs and priorities
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